Quotes By Agina Onyebuchi Gideon(Soul Therapist)

Silence and Noise are similar as they both impress the listener based on his mind state

Effects Of Social Media Addiction And How To get Off Them

Social media addiction can be more harmful than it initially seems – it can be the cause of family problems and performance issues at work. Even if you don’t have a full blown addiction to social media, spending too much time on Facebook and other websites can still be unhealthy. For one thing, every moment spent on social media is a moment that isn’t spent with family and friends. Then there is the issue of being too sedentary in general. Spending excess time on social media certainly contributes to that. Whether you are a social media addict, or simply want to cut back the time you spend on social media, here are a few tips that you can follow.

1. Make a list of what you are missing by spending too much time on social media.

If your social media use has become a problem, it’s usually because you are missing out on important things. You can start to work on your addiction by creating a list of the things that spending too much time on social media is costing you. Here are a few common examples:

Time with friends and family

Reading books

Playing sports or engaging in once beloved hobbies

Time spent developing and improving work-related skills

2. Create other obligations for yourself.

As long as your only alternative to social media is sitting in front of the television, you aren’t going to beat your addiction. Try to find ways to obligate yourself to spend time away from social media and doing other things. If you have kids, volunteer to coach a sports team. You could also sign up to volunteer at a local food bank a few evenings per week. Anything that keeps you busy, and that you don’t feel as if you can blow off, is ideal.

3. Use an app to block social media sites for a period of time each day.

If you truly cannot resist getting on social media, consider using a software package or app that will allow you to lock yourself out of social media sites for a period of time each day. This will give you no option, but to slow down on your usage.

4. Have a plan and schedule for social media use.

Stop blindly surfing social media sites. Instead, put yourself on a schedule that tells you when you are able to use social media, and what activities you will engage in each time you access Facebook and other websites. For example, during the day, you could limit yourself to three visits of no more than fifteen minutes each just to check and respond to messages. Then, in the evening, you could give yourself an hour for recreational surfing and playing games.

5. Purge your friends and groups lists.

The fewer posts and images you have to slog through, the better off you will be. One place to start is by culling your list of friends and groups. Start with friends of friends of friends who you don’t really have a close connection with. Then, move on to people who tend to create Facebook drama. Finally, take a look at the groups you have joined. If you aren’t an active participant, then unsubscribe.

6. Reward yourself for not exceeding your allotted time on social media.

Decide how much time you think is reasonable to spend on social media. Then, for every week that you make it without exceeding that amount of time, give yourself a small reward. Once you are comfortable with that reduced amount of social media time, cut back again.

7. Don’t use late night as an excuse to mindlessly surf.

When it is late at night and everybody else is in bed, it can be easy to justify hopping on social media for a couple of hours. After all, who is it hurting? It’s important to remember that curing a social media addiction is for your own well-being too. Don’t feed your addiction simply because there is nobody around to witness it.

8. Consider limiting the number of sites that you use.

If you don’t use a social media site for work, or to connect with friends and family, maybe you should consider deactivating your account. This will allow you to reduce the time you spend on social media while still allowing you to be active on the sites that are important.

9. Take up an offline hobby.

Try to start at least one hobby that does not require using a computer or smartphone in any way whatsoever. This way, you will have something to do besides surf when you become bored. If social media has caused you to lose time with people that you love, a shared hobby may be a great way to reconnect.

10. Try a social media vacation.

Some people find they are best able to curb their addiction to social sites by simply spending a week or two going cold turkey without using them at all. You might find that it’s easier to quit using the sites altogether for a period of time than it is to attempt to moderate your use.

11. Enlist the support of friends and family.

Let your family and friends know that you are working on reducing your social media time. If they feel like they’ve been losing you to your computer, they will be happy to hear about your commitment.

12. Start connecting with people outside of social media.

If you have a person’s home address, telephone number, or email, there is no need for social media to be your sole connection to them. If you establish communication channels that don’t involve getting onto Facebook, you have, once again, one less reason to use social media.

13. Only access social media from one device in one location.

You might also consider turning the bedroom and bathroom into social media free zones.

14. Delete social media games and apps from your smartphone.

Getting rid of these games and apps can remove the temptation to surf while you are out and about. Instead, focus on what is going on in the real world.

15. Hide dramatic statuses (and people).

As much as we roll our eyes at them, it can be tempting to spend too much time reading dramatic status updates and then following along with the fallout that always happens afterwards. If you see a drama-filled post, simply hide it and move on.

Love Messages For Your Boyfriend

The night is the most important time to remind someone of your love for them especially when you are far from such person, so here are 37 love messages you can send to that special person to remind them of how special they are to you

1. I can’t wait until the day I can stop texting you goodnight and can just whisper it into your ear.

2. The further away you are, the harder it is for me to fall asleep.

3. I wish I had my head on your chest instead of this pillow.

4. I hope I dream of you tonight, because I don’t think I can stand eight hours away from you.

5. I’m so tired. But I don’t want to stop talking to you.

6. My bed is much more comfortable when you’re in it.

7. Did I ever mention I sleep naked?

8. I hate saying goodnight. I’d rather say good morning.

9. My dog is sleeping in my bed with me, but there’s still plenty of room for you.

10. I feel like I’m already dreaming, because I’m texting my dream man.

11. I wish I was cuddling with you instead of the teddy bear you bought me.

12. I can’t sleep, because I’m too excited about seeing you tomorrow.

13. I bought a skimpy new nightgown I know you’d love. I wish you were here to see it.

14. Have you looked at the moon tonight? It’s almost as gorgeous as you are.

15. I love you, but somehow, in the morning I’ll love you even more.

16. Just so you know, I’ve been sitting in bed, replaying the perfect day we had over and over in my head.

17. If you were in bed with me, we wouldn’t be sleeping.

18. I want sex and snuggles.

19. Why should I bother to fall asleep? I’m already living out my dream.

20. When are we moving in together? I never want to spend another night away from you.

21. Would you call me corny if I admitted I keep my phone over my heart as I sleep?

22. You look adorable when you sleep. I wish I was there to see it.

23. I’m already half-asleep, but I just wanted to text you to remind you that I’m absolutely crazy about you.

24. Today was amazing. But I know tomorrow will be even better.

25. You better not have any nightmares. I don’t want anyone to hurt you, even in your dreams.

26. Dream of me, because I’m definitely going to be dreaming of you.

27. I wanted to make you smile before you drifted off to sleep. I hope this text does the trick.

28. I can’t fall asleep without hearing the sound of your breathing. Or your snoring.

29. I want your face to be the last thing I see at night and the first thing I see in the morning.

30. I miss everything about you.

31. I want you to kiss my forehead and hold me close until we fall asleep in each other’s arms.

32. Words can’t explain how much I miss you, but emojis might. 😢😿😢

33. It’s freezing in here. I wish I had your body pressed against me to warm me up.

34. I wish you were here, so we could cuddle all night and have sex all morning.

35. I don’t want to be the girl who can’t spend a night without her boyfriend, but… I am.

36. I sent a goodnight kiss through the phone. Did you get it?

37. Dream of me.

To The Love I Let Go

People say love is complicated. For me, it felt like the easiest thing in the world. It was easy and uncomplicated for the first few months and truthfully speaking, I don’t even remember the moment that I made myself emotionally vulnerable to someone like you.

When I look back on that phase in my life, I berate myself time and again for missing the signs, which were staring me in my face.

It took me a month to realize that you weren’t the person I thought you were, and somewhere deep down, the undercurrents of selfishness and greed ran deep within you.

It took me three months to get myself out of the lovey-dovey phase and finally make myself see the mess that my life was becoming because of you.

It took me six months to tell myself that I was losing my self-respect because of all the excuses I made for you.

It took me eight months to realize that you were my blessing in disguise because yo

u taught me that one can go through even the mightiest strifes and still emerge unscathed.

It took me a year to finally muster up the courage to say no to you and tell you all that was wrong with you and me.

It took me a year and a half to realize that whatever I was feeling about you was just an illusion, an image my mind had created so I didn’t have to deal with the pain of accepting that you weren’t as perfect as I made you out to be.

You made me feel worthless and broken. You made me feel like I didn’t deserve you, when in fact it was the opposite. You were dependent on me. You needed me so much that when I finally got the courage to leave you, it broke you into two, while I was left shaken but unbruised.

I can’t say that I don’t miss you. I miss all the moments that we spent together, the memories we shared, our little inside jokes and most of all, I miss us. What we used to be, and what we thought we could be. Maybe you changed and maybe I did too. Maybe these maybes are all we have left to remind us of our past.

I don’t know if I regret the decisions I made in life. Sometimes I do. But mostly I just know that somewhere out there, there is something better waiting to happen. For both of us.

I Will Never Leave You

Do you love me or just the thought of me? It’s so cliché but my mind has been going over this so many times I’ve stopped counting. Which one is it? And what’s the difference other than the ability to touch me?

If I’d pass away, you’d still talk to me before you go to sleep. You’d still tell me all about your day, your job, how there was this moment just after waking when you noticed the bed was colder. You’d probably ask me “and how are you?” and fall asleep shortly after, accustomed to the silence that follows.

On your way to work the radio would play the songs that remind you of me, because they all do. When you’d cross the bridge, images would start to pop up in your head. The two of us swimming naked in the river, our bodies tanned and sweaty. Strawberry ice cream in my hair, my fingers sweet against your lips. My long hair spread out in the grass, your dog peaceful at my feet, your hand pressed against my cheek. None of these are things we’ve necessarily ever done, but the pictures are so pretty in your head.

You don’t need me for that.

If I’m not here – what would you miss me for? Don’t miss being able to talk to me, because you still can. You’ve known me for so long, you already know what I’m going to say anyway. You wouldn’t miss me surprising you, because I never do. There’d be no void where my voice used to be. The silence after I’ve fallen asleep would be even more silent and with your eyes closed you can fantasize that I’m there next to you. You could make me as pretty as you like, finally getting rid of the mole on my right breast you find so distracting.

It would take some getting used to making breakfast just for one, but let’s be honest: that’s not something you’d actually miss, right? It’d give you time to go for a quick run, kick start your day, do something useful. Something you can tell me about later when you imagine me leaning against you, praising you for your hard work. When I’m no longer here, you could still have me and secretly add all the qualities you always wished I had.

When I’m gone, nothing would really change except maybe for the better. You’d cry, for the changes they’d ask you to make are something you’re not ready for. You’d cry for seeing yourself so miserable, for thinking you’d lost the love of your life. Don’t. Don’t cry, don’t change. Don’t tell a soul I’m gone. Keep me with you and make me better than I ever was, take all you never could from me. You wouldn’t have to miss a thing at all; what you loved in me could now never be taken from you. You’d never have to miss me.

But I’d sure miss to be touched.

Words That Change Our Lives

“I love you” is a big one. “I’m sorry” is another. “I forgive you” is powerful for both the speaker and the recipient. But the phrase we need to use more often that can change the way we relate to others and the way we view the world has become unpopular:

“I need your help.”

Vulnerability is not prized within our society, especially male vulnerability. When we acknowledge our need for help, we go beyond just connecting with others; we reveal our needs and allow ourselves to receive. Why is this so hard? Why do we fight it?

It isn’t just our innate skills or strengths that help us survive and bounce back from difficult times; it’s also making the choice to reach out to others.

When we choose vulnerability, we open the doors of communication in a life changing way. It’s easy for most of us to give. It feels life affirming to help others, to give of ourselves. Even with the most altruistic intentions, the act of giving does make us feel better too. But asking for help and being willing to receive help from others is much harder. When we take that risk—the risk that the answer might be rejection, ridicule or an unwillingness to help–we are not being weak. We are being vulnerable, which is perhaps our greatest untapped strength.

Recently, I reached out to several friends for help about a difficult situation I was wrestling with. It still wasn’t easy to ask for help, but since I’ve been cultivating this habit, it’s gotten easier. Life is never “stress-free,” but we all have those times that seem particularly overwhelming, where we get so tired that word “tired” just doesn’t do it justice anymore. These are the times when it seems hardest to reach out, and these are the times when we need to do it the most.

What if we, as a culture, shifted the way we look at vulnerability altogether?

Even as we evolve the idea of masculinity away from tired and harmful stereotypes, we still do not champion the idea of vulnerability as a strength. When we choose to trust, we are exhibiting tremendous strength.

When we ask for help:

We are exhibiting security in our own self worth. We know that having a need doesn’t negate our value as a person.

We are choosing to trust the person we ask for help; this is a reflection of our respect for them as well as our confidence in our own ability to choose our partners and allies well. We are cultivating our emotional intelligence and using our resources wisely. None of us can do everything. All of us need help. It is a wise person that chooses to ask for help before a problem is out of control, and a brave person who sees when things are out of control and still finds the wherewithal to reach out for help. We are setting an example for others of vulnerability as a strength, and helping to break down this idea of asking for help as weakness.

If we are going to change this conversation, we need to start examining how powerful vulnerability can be.

Laid Immortal

As i immortalize your face unto the canvas of my soul

I couldn't help but wonder

If i could ever be the words in your period